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Gary said:
November 1, 2008 @ 9:49 pm
Upto 7 weeks ago I thought I had the perfect marriage, then all of a sudden my wife turned round and told me she doesn’t know who she is and she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s not me it’s her she will tell me, but this does not make things any easier to understand. We have always been a very affectionate couple and had no trouble talking about most things. My wife is a very private person, when it comes to really deep matters she has never confided in me or anybody else for that matter even her closest friends or family, she recently turned fifty. She has had a lot to deal with over the last two years, she changed her shifts at work to go on permanent nights in order to look after her sick mother. Her mother died 18 months ago, and she dealt with her death like she would do with any at work ( she is an emergency nurse ) She hardly cried and never speaks about her mum. Anything I suggest she says I am trying to control her, she accuses me of things I have not done and she will just erupt for any reason. The most trivial of things get blown out of all proportion. She is forgetting things that have happened and remembering things that have never happened. She looks at me some days as though she hates me and there is an anger in her that I have never seen. She moved out 7 weeks ago telling me she needs time to herself, at first she moved in with her youngest son and girlfriend and now she is renting a house with her sister (who has just left her husband) and her eldest son. how is she supposed to get time to herself when she surrounds herself with other people. I look at her and somedays I don’t recognise her at all, she is so cold and distant and then the next day she will call me and it is though everthing is fine and nothing is wrong. I have 3 children from a previous marriage and my wife has 2, all the kids are young adults now, she has not even asked how my 3 children are in 7 weeks. I don’t know what has happened to my wife and best friend but I am desperate to try and understand as she is the most precious person in the world to me. People just tell me give her time. is this the answer? Please help
Wendy Boother said:
November 17, 2008 @ 10:14 pm
I had a hysterectomy due to a cyst and some ovary was left to put things off as long as possible but now at 48 things are now changing. No worries about periods obviously and I can get a bit flushed at night but my main problem is a general feeling of muzziness most of the time…headaches, chests, throats and earache in particular…every couple of weeks or so coupled with tender breasts. ENT found nothing physical, allergies and intolerances have not been identified. Just my hormones it seems. Anyone got any ideas how I can lift myself out of the doldrums every couple of weeks or so?
val said:
November 27, 2008 @ 7:22 pm
I am 50 and have been through nearly every symptom you could imagin and am getting really weary about it all , HRT changing constantly one type then another after about 5yrs now , and now I find that my hair is thining and receading slightly, is there any type of vitamin or supplement that will stop or reverse whats happening? or will I end up looking like my mother ( who is 91!) very soon .
anne said:
December 1, 2008 @ 11:53 pm
I am 41 and have never had children. I stopped taking the pill 4 years ago and my periods then began to happen fairly irregularly - sometimes every 20 days, sometimes 32 or there between. Since January of this year I have had 3 periods and keep getting hot flushes on and off. I assume that this is the start of the menopause. I live in Spain and have not had this confirmed by a Doctor but I am curious to know if it is normal to feel a bit depressed about the menopause. I never wanted children (probably because I have always worked with them), but now I feel very sad that the option will no longer be there for me. Also, is it normal for the vagina to become loose around the time of menopause. My partner says it feels looser and I am now paranoid that not only is our sex life is suffering as a result but that I am getting old and he will want to trade me in for a different model so to speak. I am starting to suspect him of sleeping with other women for no reason and feel angry and tearful a lot of the time. Are there any natural remedies I can try to perk me up!!
Clive said:
December 9, 2008 @ 5:27 pm
My wife is now 49, over the past 4 years or so, she has become so dogmatic and intollerant of me and the three adult children. She makes the smallest of issue into a huge problem then tends to blame it on me. When we now argue she cant seem to understand or hear my side of things she has become so opinionated that the arguments feel as if she hates me. At the last argument she stood at the window as i went to work and you could see the hatred in her eyes. she never says sorry likes she use to. The children are causing a bit of a problem and she blames me for it all. Is she going through perimenopausal stage?
ana said:
December 18, 2008 @ 9:17 pm
I AM 43 I DO THE TRETEMEN HRT CAN I CAME PREGENT
Jayne said:
December 26, 2008 @ 7:47 pm
I am 50 next year and have been going through the menopuase for nearly 4 years then about 6 days ago I have started a period which I have not had for nearly the 4 years, cramps headache all as before,is this normal, has anyone other women had this happen to them. I am getting a bit nervous in case it is anything serious. Other than this I lead a good healthy life. I await an urgent reply please.
linda kirk said:
January 5, 2009 @ 12:50 pm
I am 49 and periods erratic, my friend who is 52 had not seen a period for 2 years then had 2 over several mths Apparantley this can happen on the onset of the menopause it is such a confusing time for us women now i understand a bit more about my mums erratic behaviour just wish i had talked to her more about it she died 20 yrs ago. I work with women only who are going through personal problems and over half of them over 40 have symptoms of menopause which is causing trauma in their lives.I advise them to keep some kind of journal to help them through the stages and we have started a small group for them to share their stories.I hope jayne this is some comfort to you.