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Barry said:
October 14, 2008 @ 12:07 am
My partner is 52 and having just come back from a fabulous holiday together announced that she didn’t know what she wanted anymore, I felt devastated. She says its not me and i’ve done nothing wrong.All the symptoms point to menopause but she seems to be in denial of this. There have been various incidents recently that at the time I couldn’t understand but having read the posts on this site it all seems to make sense now.She has recently had to change jobs and is doing something new to her and this seems have really knocked her self confidence.I have given her some space (3 weeks) and she has not contacted me, She was on HRT but gave up suddenly, I love her more than life itself and just want her back what do I do? Please help
linda kirk said:
October 14, 2008 @ 11:52 am
I am sure your wife will be in touch soon,it is just the space she needs to sort her feelings out ,most women going through this time will tell you it is nothing anyone has done it is the way we feel inside.Apart fom the physical affects to our bodies the emotional feelings can be overwhelming it effects so many women in different ways.This is a anxious time for you .but i am sure when you both are through this you will be stronger than ever.I run a support group for women to share there experiences going through this time,see if there is any group for men in your area who understand ,or get some advice or information from your health centre. Good luck
Stuart said:
October 19, 2008 @ 9:42 am
Hello Ladies.
I need some help and advice. My Girlfriend is perimenopausal, she keeps getting upset and emotional and often very weepy. I never know what to do for the best, if I cuddle her she gets upset, if I leave her alone she gets upset,its a dilema. She has been taking some herbal supplement that seemed to work for her, but she stopped taking it when she thought she was coping. But today has been the worst yet. Im concerned for her and Im concerned for our relationship. Its not just women who suffer with this, men feel the pain as well
Gary said:
November 1, 2008 @ 9:49 pm
Upto 7 weeks ago I thought I had the perfect marriage, then all of a sudden my wife turned round and told me she doesn’t know who she is and she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s not me it’s her she will tell me, but this does not make things any easier to understand. We have always been a very affectionate couple and had no trouble talking about most things. My wife is a very private person, when it comes to really deep matters she has never confided in me or anybody else for that matter even her closest friends or family, she recently turned fifty. She has had a lot to deal with over the last two years, she changed her shifts at work to go on permanent nights in order to look after her sick mother. Her mother died 18 months ago, and she dealt with her death like she would do with any at work ( she is an emergency nurse ) She hardly cried and never speaks about her mum. Anything I suggest she says I am trying to control her, she accuses me of things I have not done and she will just erupt for any reason. The most trivial of things get blown out of all proportion. She is forgetting things that have happened and remembering things that have never happened. She looks at me some days as though she hates me and there is an anger in her that I have never seen. She moved out 7 weeks ago telling me she needs time to herself, at first she moved in with her youngest son and girlfriend and now she is renting a house with her sister (who has just left her husband) and her eldest son. how is she supposed to get time to herself when she surrounds herself with other people. I look at her and somedays I don’t recognise her at all, she is so cold and distant and then the next day she will call me and it is though everthing is fine and nothing is wrong. I have 3 children from a previous marriage and my wife has 2, all the kids are young adults now, she has not even asked how my 3 children are in 7 weeks. I don’t know what has happened to my wife and best friend but I am desperate to try and understand as she is the most precious person in the world to me. People just tell me give her time. is this the answer? Please help
Fran Brown said:
November 8, 2008 @ 9:11 pm
I have just behaved the exact way to my husband whom I love deeply. Because I could not cope due to the menopause and its effects, I acted the same way towards my husband displaying all the behavioural symptoms your wife has displayed. I decided to try to elaviate the depression and change the personality it gave me.
I read an article that explained the human body requires a large amount of water to function correctly and natural unrefined salt which eradicates migraine headaches (not table salt, rather the grey sort from salt flats) I started this water and salt regime together with with soya milk and now I am back to my normal self and no longer the monster I was turning in to.
Wendy Boother said:
November 17, 2008 @ 10:14 pm
I had a hysterectomy due to a cyst and some ovary was left to put things off as long as possible but now at 48 things are now changing. No worries about periods obviously and I can get a bit flushed at night but my main problem is a general feeling of muzziness most of the time…headaches, chests, throats and earache in particular…every couple of weeks or so coupled with tender breasts. ENT found nothing physical, allergies and intolerances have not been identified. Just my hormones it seems. Anyone got any ideas how I can lift myself out of the doldrums every couple of weeks or so?